D-Factored

This post is just for girls... well, maybe guys could learn what not to do from it too actually. Have you ever heard of the D-Factor? I hadn't... until about a week ago. Here's what it is... it is a fool-proof and proven way for a guy to get a girl and keep her... without having to do anything decent or being anyone worthy of her affection. It is an actual method men are perfectly aware and content to be using. The draw-back to it is that usually the girl doesn't stick around very long... maybe a month or so, but the point of it for the guy using it is not to have a meaningful relationship, but to build and maintain an image of coolness and worth - if even only to himself. Men who don't use it don't respect a boy who does... it is clearly inferior. The D-man though, looks down on truly good men for their respectable methods of being acquainted with women. Now, be aware, this information was told to me by a guy who has been encouraged to use the D-Factor and has had detailed conversations about the method and efficacy of it with other guys... it's not made up... So, here's what happens. The guy doesn't have to be particularly handsome, or rich, or smart, or well-rounded, or cultured, or any attractive characteristics at all really, but he'll strike up a conversation and get your attention. Then he says something about some activity or party or something else you might be interested in, maybe music, or clothes. Anything. He establishes himself as just a friend, nothing wrong with that. If he thinks you find him attractive he may say you should do something sometime. At first he treats you really well, doing whatever you want to do, being interested in what interests you, saying sweet things, doing sweet things, and pretty much gives you whatever it is he finds that you want out of the relationship... for a while. He establishes himself as her source of getting whatever it is she is looking for. Now, according to D-Factor, after a while and because girls are emotional creatures she will become attached because the guy has made her feel appreciated and special. As soon as D-man sees that the girl is emotionally attached they put her on the rollercoaster that keeps her in his slimy fists. At this beginning point the girl is up... but if the guy is to maintain control of the relationship then according to D-Factor he has to make her vulnerable and make her feel like she could lose this emotional connection that has just been established so that she will stay with him. He then introduces something to make her feel threatened. Another girl works best because the process of the D-Factor can then be bounced between several girls, making D-man appear to do well with the ladies which makes him feel like he is looked up to and admired by other men. I've seen it done with 3 or 4 girls at a time. So, she feels that this new relationship/source she has become dependent on is being threatened and doesn't want to let it go. She might think that he is getting bored of her and she should do something to make herself more interesting and stand apart from the other girls, or that she has done something to drive him away and needs to do what he wants her to do, or that she needs to change something about herself to make him like her more and treat her the way he did before. So she would naturally put a lot of effort into the relationship on his behalf, doing things for him, buying things for him, padding his ego with her words, actions, and presence in front of other men, and making him feel like/look like he is her number one priority. He continues to treat her like garbage for a while... all the while giving her just enough attention not to bail. So after a while the girl is emotionally beaten and spent and comes to him in a last chance effort to recover the worth he has stripped her of, and then he changes it up. He tells her he didn't realize that his behavior was hurting her, and that he's so sorry he made her feel that way, and that he will never do anything to hurt her again and he feels terrible for not seeing it before, and he 'saves' her from all the pain and vulnerability and insecurities she has been experiencing. She sees him as the sweet, wonderful, albeit dense about the way a woman works, hero. He has just given her the drug she had been seeking, the natural endorphines that come with being treated with acceptance and 'love' and being valued by someone who is valued by her. So she was down and now she's up again. Meanwhile, now the other girl is down, but the girl who is up feels great because he chose her over the other... she is more important and more special and more needed and more loved, and more interesting and fun and pretty and the list goes on. Then after a while he takes it away again. She goes again from high to low... but this time it's different because the high is higher than the first and the fall is that much further. Again, she puts herself on the line, being a caring, hopeful, and loving girl. She gives him whatever she thinks might sway him back into her favor and he enjoys the benefits of it. He says he's not ready to commit to her and she allows that because she would rather have him at all than have him walk away again, than to feel that rejection again. He does anything he wants with any other girl because 'he's single' and she allows it because he tells her that she is the girl he will be with when he wants to settle down and have a girlfriend... after all she is the only girl he truly loves. The rest just take up his time when she is not there. She gives him her attention, affection, confidence, love, anything she thinks will either 'win him back' or 'win him over to her for good'. This pattern of up and down repeats itself until the girl looks around at the shattered pieces of the girl she used to be, having to look for the good and the worth that she used to easily see. She has by then been told a thousand times that she is everything anyone could want, and ten thousand reasons she is not good enough for anyone. By then her self value is a mere ghost of what it used to be and what it should be. I'm sorry, but exactly what the hell kind of crap game is that?!? Guys... few things are more devastating and deeply destructive than being played with like that. I know of several girls who are being D-Factored right now, and I know it's a really hard thing to get out of once you are in it because when the girl is up it really feels great to be needed and loved and all the things he says you are to him. It's All Farce. Not a bit of what he says is actually true, though he swears up and down that it is. I can say that with surety looking from the other side of it. It's a surprisingly hard thing to get out of because as soon as he sees her start to leave he exerts very large amounts of effort to regain and maintain his dominance in the relationship. I have heard and read so many stories and letters from the girls also involved with D-men. They all say the same thing... Why doesn't he treat me like he did before? Why was he so good to me and now I am left crying? What does he see in her that he used to see in me? I have seen them change the color of their hair, change the clothes they wear, the movies they watch, the things they found humorous, the things they found acceptable, their interests and goals, their language, and ultimately their confidence and self worth as they are repeatedly shown that they are valued and then worthless to the person they have invested their affections in. D-Factor is the most horrifyingly despicable and degrading thing I have ever seen a man knowingly do to a woman. It starts when a woman is vulnerable, and with someone she trusts/comes to trust as a true friend. After giving the D-man trust she is shortly repaid with the lowest and most hurtful form of betrayal he could give her. It's not blatantly obvious until you know what to look for, and once in, it is absolutely devastating. I have seen beautiful, shining, confident women reduced to hollow playthings. It's absolutely true... it works. Boys who use D-Factor tell their friends to use it because it really does work... it doesn't have to be specifically called that, but the principles are the same. Guys who use it can get any girl they want if they can just get in the door. It's absolutely disgusting and I have no respect, and no interest, and every possible disdain, dislike and distrust for any man who uses it. Women, learn and watch for the patterns, be aware of the deception and deep manipulation, and find the strength to be able to hate the action so much that you can easily walk away from it if you ever find yourself with a D-man. Any man who uses it is in my opinion a revolting, lousy, disgusting, vomit-inducing, lying, douche bag who deserves to die alone in a gutter somewhere and be left by all who knows him to rot there. Any man who knowingly treats women this way is a disgusting maggot of a man.